No one plans to get divorced when they get married. If it happens, unless you’ve experienced a divorce before, you probably won’t what happens next. Divorces can take different directions depending on how well the two parties are able to work together.
For most divorces, there will be a settlement meeting (or meetings) that takes place.
This will generally consist of you, your soon to be ex, and your respective attorneys.
It’s not something anyone wants to do, but if you’re looking to settle your divorce without it turning into an ugly legal battle, it’s something you’ll need to do. In fact, it’s possible the judge will order to have one.
The Goal of a Settlement Meeting
You might think the primary goal is to protect your assets or get as much stuff as you can. While this is tempting, and may even be a secondary goal, the true purpose of the meeting is to come to an agreement with your former spouse. Whatever is discussed, whatever you get, whatever you might give up, the end goal is to form an agreement you both sign off on.
What This Looks Like
Any and all major assets you have between you will be out on the table. If you have children, custody terms will be discussed as well. Each side will have already discussed in length with their attorney and will enter with their own terms.
Chances are, these two sets of terms will not line up perfectly.
Each side will share their case while the other listens, and then you will negotiate from there. Generally, the lawyers will do the majority of the talking/mediating.
How to Handle It
One of the best things you can do is leave your emotions at the door. We know that’s not the easiest thing to do. For most, it’s near impossible. But it’s important to try your best.
You can express your opinion. You can state your reasons. But you need to retain a level of emotional distance.
It’s also important that you listen to the other side. Hear what they’re saying and asking for. Try to see things from their perspective. You are not the only one who is going through a divorce.
If You Can’t Come to Terms
If the two parties are unable to come to terms during the settlement meeting, then they will take their case to a court for the judge to decide.
Working with Your Attorney
Your relationship with your attorney during a divorce is crucial. You will be meeting with them before any terms are discussed or proposed to the other party. They’ll help you understand your rights, they’ll assist in developing your strategy, and should you choose, they will lead your side of the discussion during the meetings.
It’s critical that you have an experienced divorce attorney to properly represent your side.
If you’re looking for a divorce attorney in Springfield, Ohio, the team at Michael T Edwards is here for you.
Contact us today.